If you’ve been reading my blog.. you know that my passion in life is to see God bring healing to His people. As a counselor.. there is nothing more important to me than being a part of this deep work that He is doing through the Holy Spirit. For the last year I’ve been in a season of grief and healing..yes the two often go together. When we grieve God has an opportunity to go deep into our hearts and bring up things that we might never look at under other circumstances. I would go so far as to say that without grief, the healing really isn’t complete.

When God opens a wound from the past.. there are emotions that become jarred loose and we find ourselves face to face with our losses. Every life is full of them. The older we get, the more losses we experience..it is inevitable. I have some very deep wounds from the 25 years I spent in an abusive marriage. When it was over, 14 years ago, I began to grieve and unravel my past. Recently God has been excavating some remaining emotions from that time.

He is going deep into the recesses of my heart and pulling out old memories and the feelings that are connected to them. It is a painful process and even more so since so much of it is happening in the middle of the night. I imagine because it is a time when I am quiet and not busy with life. So I am sleep deprived but looking forward to the fruit that is going to come from this season of healing. As I work with my counseling clients.. I am constantly reminded by the Lord that I am only His instrument and their healing comes from His hand.

“The wounded healer is a phenomenon that occurs between the healer and the one receiving the healing. Psychologist Carl Jung used the phrase to describe experiences in the relationship between the counselor and their patient, where the counselor would examine themselves and experience depths of their own pain, in order to probe, understand, and heal the pain of their patient. Jung expressed that the experience was entirely necessary to the healing process, as well as warned of its many dangers.”

Jesus is our wounded healer..the one who enables us to become the same for those He brings into our path.


4 thoughts on “Excavating

  1. Alicia, I love your final sentence about Jesus being the wounded healer. I have noticed that those who have been through similar valleys, as those they counsel, seem the most gifted in their helping.

    Blessings ~ Wendy

  2. I totally agree Wendy..my own pain and suffering has been a big part of the counseling ministry God has given me. It is reassuring to know that our trials benefit others and bring healing as we share our hearts.
    Thanks for stopping by.

  3. I like this post a lot, as I am going through some fiery trials at the moment and the notion of grief and healing coming at the same time is very compelling. I’ve never been married, but for a long time I have felt a deep bitterness towards women, for one reason or another, largely because in seeking romance in pubs and nightclubs, which are usually superficial and shallow places at best for that sort of things anyway, I had a large number of negative experiences. Being single, but desiring someone to fall in love with, marry and have children with, but not letting go of my bitterness has created obvious tensions within me, that only in the past year or so I am slowly coming to terms with. The whole romance thing for Christians is fraught with all kinds of extra ‘problems’ as well; celibacy, which is very hard, the notion that obviously a prospective partner must be a Christian and share your values to name but two. This of course coupled with other things I have endured means I have often stayed awake at night being angry and going over and over again my past.

  4. Thank you Tim.. for sharing at such a deep level. I believe that God wants to heal you and help you let go of the disappointment that often leads to anger and bitterness. Grieving our losses is often the path to true healing..we have to admit that we have not received what we hoped for and that our hearts are hurting. The biggest challenge is to remember that God has not forgotten us as we lay down our dreams..He will bring new ones. He has a plan for you and as you release the old things, new things will come in their place. I will be praying for you..

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