Take care of yourself

Do you ever say that to someone? I do and I mean it. What does that really mean? Does it sound selfish or self-centered? It is not. We are designed in such a way that if we don’t care for ourselves, we cannot care for anyone else.

So why is it so difficult? especially for givers. Users have no problem taking care of themselves.. in fact that is their life’s work. We can call that narcissism..a very big problem in our culture. Then there those of us who like to give and care for others. It is so easy to do this at the expense of our own well-being. We are adept at putting ourselves on the back burner..and we think it is the Christian thing to do. After all the Bible seems to be saying that we must put others before ourselves.

We are walking on a tightrope right now..because this is not a simple thing to understand. God does want us to care for others and to focus on the needs of those He puts in our lives..but not without caring for our own needs. We need to come and get filled up so we can give out of the overflow. If we put everyone else first our life will be out of balance and we will inevitably become grouchy, overly emotional, and just plain depressed. That is not God’s plan for our lives.

The most convincing argument for this comes straight out of the gospels. Jesus himself escaped from the crowds when He needed a break. He said no when it was the time to say no and He had boundaries with those around Him. If we look to His life we see an example of  how to live..it still works 2000 years later.

Take a look at this scripture.. you’re read it before.

“The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”

Notice anything?.. it presupposes that we love ourselves..it doesn’t say to love others instead of ourselves.. food for thought isn’t it?

Take good care of yourself until we meet again!

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8 thoughts on “Take care of yourself

  1. Wonderful; no one ever said we had to just blindly accept scripture or what we are told by the religious authorities. This is spot-on.

    You wrote: ‘After all the Bible seems to be saying that we must put others before ourselves.’ Yes it does. But it doesn’t mean we should burn out in doing so; we all have needs after all.

    You wrote: ‘If we put everyone else first our life will be out of balance and we will inevitably become grouchy, overly emotional, and just plain depressed. That is not God’s plan for our lives.’ No it isn’t. God wants us to have abundant lives, overflowing with joy, peace, happiness and even laughter! There is balance to found in everything. Yes, Jesus Himself went off to be on His own from time to time; if He could so can we!

    To first love and respect others, we need also to love and respect ourselves. No one ever said that to be a Christian was to be a doormat or to be a self-appointed suffering saint; if God wants us to that He will do it in His time and His way. We should all hope for peace and abundant living, whilst we are concerned that other people have the same.

  2. Your comment is a great addition to what I wrote Tim.. Yes we have to have boundaries and recognize our limitations..God created us that way so that we are able to continually recognize our need for Him.. Thanks for the insights.. Blessings,
    Alicia

  3. This is one of the best posts you’ve posted Alicia, amongst your usual very good posts; it really resonated with me and made, and will make me, think. I look forward to your next post.

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