It doesn’t happen all at once. True forgiveness is a process. This is especially true when the wound is deep and filled with unresolved pain. The first step is always willingness to face all that has happened. Not so easy. The pain may be buried and difficult to access. The actions of the person could have taken place years early..the emotions are buried. The good news is we have a healer. Our great God..He is the one who can take us to those unknown places and bring up the memories that will help us heal.
When the old wounds are opened..the grief process begins. We are grieving those things that never happened..the relationships that will never be what we hoped for..the lack of intimacy. The process of forgiveness opens the door to buried emotions..those that are buried alive and still clamor for our attention. All of this takes time..time alone with God..out..time to get in touch with our hearts. He longs to reach deep inside us and pull out the knives that are stuck in the wound..to drain those wounds and apply the balm of Gilead. He is the great physician.
After this happens..true forgiveness is possible. Remember the torture and suffering that Jesus paid to bring us forgiveness.. was a huge cost. The same is true for us. To truly forgive those who have hurt us.. there is a cost. There is suffering and pain. The result is worth it..Freedom! He wants us to experience true freedom..a clean heart that is free of old resentments and bitterness. He came to set the captives free.
” Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.”